It’s Valentine ’s Day, the festival of amour, and, for once,
I’m going to exchange my mood of belligerence for one of lurve, whilst I
expound the benefits of tantric massage and how it can be incorporated into
your love making.
It seems to me that these days we do everything in a rush,
and that includes sex. It’s on tap. Just open up that little app on your phone,
and you can be fucking in minutes. Quick and easy. You can even organise a
quickie for your lunch hour, and be back in your office with nobody any the
wiser about what kind of sausage sandwich you had for your lunch.
Well tantra is something different. Even if you are in a relationship, when was
the last time you and your partner actually took time to make love, made an
evening of it, an evening of exploring each other’s bodies? So, for Valentine
’s Day, why not try something different? Instead of going for a romantic, and
usually rather expensive, dinner out somewhere, followed by a tipsy quickie
when you get home before going to sleep, why not have a quick light meal, and
spend the rest of the evening exploring and enjoying each other’s bodies?
Here are a few tips on tantric massage to help get you
started. You can make an evening of it, take turns to massage each other. You
can make it a prelude to sex or you can spend an entire evening massaging each
other. Either way, you will achieve greater intimacy than you normally do. Admittedly
it requires a little preparation, but I guarantee you it will be worth it. Now
most of us don’t have a massage table, but I would suggest taking things off
the bed, and even out of the bedroom if you can. Why not spread some cushions
on the floor and cover them with a duvet, a large sheet and some towels. As
you’re going to be doing some massage, then the floor will also offer a firmer
surface. If you have a futon, then that would be even better.
Atmosphere is
very important, so candlelight is an absolute must, scented candles are even
better, as are incense sticks (I particularly like Nitraj Original natural
Masala incense available from Buddha on a Bicycle in Covent Garden). Music is
also very important. There are plenty of
massage, new age and tantra albums out there, but I’ve put together my own
playlist, which is a mixture of all sorts; selections from chill out albums
like Buddha Bar and Café del Mar, classical pieces, and bits and pieces I’ve
downloaded from various tantra albums. I put it on shuffle, so I never know
quite what is coming next, but the music often dictates the speed of my massage
strokes, and even the pressure. My playlist is on spotify and if you are a
member, you too can subscribe to my list.
So we have now set up the room, we have created a warm,
welcoming atmosphere, and it’s time to create the intimacy and the bond that
will carry us through the next few hours. It’s best if you start in loose, easy
to remove clothing. Stand facing your partner, take each other’s hands and
close your eyes. Let the music wash over you and slow your breathing down,
taking deep breaths deep down into your diaphragm. Then, eyes still closed
start to explore each other’s bodies through your clothes. You will be amazed
how sensuous this can feel. Don’t be afraid to touch each other’s intimate
parts, but don’t concentrate on them either. Really feel all over each other’s
bodies, and finish this section by holding each other closely for a few
minutes, enjoying the intimacy and feeling of just being held. Then you can
start to undress each other. Again, take your time. This can be unbelievably
erotic. Caress each other’s bodies as you take off each item of clothing. Make
love to each other’s bodies. Once naked, hold each other again, before lying
down and starting on the massage proper.
One thing tantric massage emphatically is not is a rub down
followed by a hand job. In fact Joseph Kramer, tantric massage guru, once
stated, “The difference between Tao Erotic Massage and a hand job is the
difference between banging on a piano and playing Mozart.” Now you are ready to
start playing Mozart.
Choice of massage oils is personal. Good ones are almond oil
and coconut oil, but you could equally use baby oil. It can bea good idea to
warm it on a radiator before using it, and then pour it into your hands first
before rubbing it into your partner’s body. I usually start with my client face
down and start on the back, sweeping my hands down to the buttocks. Play with
your partner’s body. Remember what feels good for you will no doubt feel good
for him too. Try it now. Gently caress one of your arms with your free hand.
Doesn’t it feel good? You have magic in your hands. Use it.
Don’t be in too much of a hurry to get to the naughty bits.
Take your time to get to know each other’s bodies. This is where you get to
find those erogenous zones you didn’t know you had before. Also remember that,
once you do get to massage the more intimate areas, whether it be the prostate
or the genitals, your aim is to make your partner feel good and prolong orgasm,
not just to bring him off. Use lots of lube if massaging the prostate, and
plenty of oil on the genitals. Don’t just jerk him off. Play with his cock,
caress it, massage it. You’ll be surprised at his reactions. Ejaculation may or
may not happen. It is not the be all and end all of a massage. In fact, it is
possible to achieve a full body orgasm without actually ejaculating.
This is just a tiny snapshot of how you can incorporate
something more sensual into your lovemaking, but if any of this has excited
your curiosity, then take a look at
Most of all, have fun and Happy Valentine’s Day.
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